about Abuse and Boundaries in Relationships

 

‘I estimate… …that from 80 to 95% of people did not receive the love, guidance and other nurturing necessary to form consistently healthy relationships and to feel good about themselves and about what they do.’1

‘Many mothers or other parent figures are mentally and emotionally impoverished. … They are thus so in need that they tend to use others in an unhealthy and inappropriate way to get these needs met.’2

‘…it[’s]…not so much…they were not loved that caused them harm but that their love was not received.’3

 

1. Information

‘Abuse and Types of Abuse’

 

‘The Pattern/Process of Prolonged and Repeated Abuse within a Relationship’

1. Terrorisation; 2. Attachment to perpetrator; 3. Annihilation of self-view/self-concept

 

‘The Pattern/Process of Prolonged and Repeated Abuse within a Relationship in Childhood (‘Child Abuse’)’

 

‘The Pattern/Process of Prolonged and Repeated Sexual Abuse within a Relationship in Childhood (‘Child Sexual Abuse’)’

 

‘Boundaries in Relationships’

 

2. Links to websites

3. Links to books/workbooks

4. Checklists and severity rating scales

 

(Prolonged and Repeated Abuse within a Relationship/Relationships) within a Group

Links to websites
Links to books
Links to videos

 

(odt version)

 


1Charles Whitfield, Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families (Florida: Health Communications, 1987) 2.

2Whitfield, Healing The Child Within, 22-3.

3David Brazier (‘The Necessary Condition is Love’, Beyond Carl Rogers (London: Constable, 1993)) paraphrased in Jan Hawkins, ‘Survivors of Childhood Abuse – The Person Centred Approach: A Special Contribution’, Person-Centred Practice 4:1 (1996) 29.